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Fuck It List: A TEDxVan Talk on Letting Go

Fuck It List

On Saturday, November 14th, Vancouver hosted its sixth TEDxVancouver at Rogers Arena. With 4,000 tickets sold and nearly 3,200 participants in the live stream who watched the talks at home, the event boasted 12 guest speakers who took the stage to contribute to a dialogue around this year’s theme: Identity.

Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armour yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you. – George RR Martin

One of my favourite talks was by Scott C. Jones, writer and co-host of Electric Playground. Scott wasted no time once he got onstage, wooing the audience with his somewhat dry, yet boyish sense of humour. Scott’s story, (and I’d encourage readers to watch the video link I’ve included at the bottom of this post), touched briefly on his ‘medical nightmare’ which involved open-heart surgery at only 30-something years old.

After his surgery, Scott traded in the proverbial bucket list for what he calls, the Fuck It List.

The Fuck It List is your list of things that you should say, Fuck It to and let go of so you can focus on the things that truly matter in this lifetime. I had the opportunity to chat with Scott backstage with the live stream team, and was happy to see that the wry sense of humor was no ploy to engage the audience.

A big moment for me was when I realized I was on social media with my mom. I just want to be with the people I love and do the things that I love. Doing a TED Talk should really be on your Fuck It List. But I had to say yes to this. – Scott C. Jones

Inspired by Scott’s talk, Natalie and I wrote our own Fuck It Lists to purge the negative thoughts and useless actions in our lives. Read on, friends, if you care to get a bit of inspiration before you say Fuck It to your own list of life’s unnecessities.

  • Second guessing myself and using logic rather than my gut instinct to influence my actions. I’m guided by my emotions and I’m sick of feeling like that’s a bad thing
  • Feeling guilty about saying NO, especially to people I hardly know (or don’t especially like)
  • Cheap wine
  • Cheap chocolate
  • Cheap food in general, I’m sick of shopping at No Frills. I like Whole Foods for its overpriced spinach and avocado
  • Dating, especially online dating
  • Feeling weird about wearing my retainer in public. Yes, I’m a 27 year old female who still wears a retainer and probably always will. I like my straight teeth and it took me 10 years of braces and head gear to look like I do today
  • Making lists of things to do, just fucking DO IT
  • Paying $4.00 for an Americano. I can make my own
  • Wearing high heels
  • Wearing clothing that I’m uncomfortable in or clothes that are too tight (unless it’s by lululemon and stretchy)
  • Messaging friends on social media. I’m dialing back to the year of the telephone. I’m sick of conversations via text and Facebook
  • Snapchat. I hate Snapchat I don’t get it and I think it’s dumb. Why do I want to see a 15 second snap of your life? Whatever
  • Staying up past 10pm. I like to go to bed early
  • Worrying about my terrible editing skills. I have the worst grammar and spelling for someone with an English and Communications degree. It’s the 21st century, my iPhone takes care of my spelling and I can pay someone to copy edit my work (Hey, Natalie!)

  • Feeling bad about being shy. I am shy, and usually awkward when I first meet people. Judging myself accomplishes nothing
  • Dieting. I love food, and I’m not going to belabour the occasional sweet indulgence. To quote Emma Stone, “You’re only human. You live once and life is wonderful so eat the damn red velvet cupcake” 
  • Taking on more work than I can handle. I have a deep, unabashed appreciation for naps, and I refuse to give them up
  • Being pressured into drinking. I’m realizing I’m short, and consequently can’t handle drinking the way my 6’-plus friends can. No one ever forces me to slam back drinks, of course; but I can and should make the choice to cut myself off after a drink or two, rather than stumbling to keep up with five
  • Feeling bad about my—at times questionable—taste in television
  • Thinking I need to buy new clothes every season. I have clothing from eight years ago that I still adore. As Vivienne Westwood says, “Buy less, choose well, make it last”
  • Hesitating. Some of my best experiences have emerged from ignoring my apprehension and letting myself just try
  • Leaping to action. Saying yes can be worth it, but only when balanced by an understanding of when to say no
  • Trying to enjoy beer. I don’t like it, and I don’t need to develop a palate for it. Give me your rattlers, frülis, and lambics, but I’ll have to decline the IPAs



Here’s the link to Scott’s talk, if anyone’s interested in hearing Scott’s Fuck It List.

Feature Image | Ian Schneider via StockSnap


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  • Stephanie – YES to dialing it back to the tellyphone! I love texting friends, but I love the warm, fuzzy feeling after getting off a 2hr phone call w dear friends.

    Natalie – Totally agree w the wardrobe refresh! Sometimes I feel like such a fraud in the fashion blogging world bc I don’t update my wardrobe every month, but I don’t think we should feel the need to. #FuckItList