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Breaking bread: Brunch and baes

Breaking bread

Exploring the importance of breaking bread and creating community

“my heart aches for sisters more than anything
it aches for women helping women
like flowers ache for spring”
– Rupi Kaur, Milk and Honey

I recently hosted a small brunch to welcome a good friend and dear pen pal, Maddie, to Vancouver. Several lovely ladies and a darling doggo all congregated in my home. We broke bread (bagels) topped with thick smears of cream cheese, salmon lox, capers, and red onion. We drank cup after cup of coffee in varying shades of black, mahogany, and tan.

It got me thinking about the power and importance of female friendship.

Breaking bread

I have profound friendships irrespective of gender identity; but I’m increasingly seeking out spaces of safety, support, and kinship amongst the women in my life. That means having ladies’ lunches at work. Brunches. Craft nights. Yoga and Muay Thai classes. Eves of wine and cheese. We commune and commiserate over our experiences. We listen and identify with each other. We encourage one another.

I do not want to sound like an essentialist. Gender is a socially constructed binary, and “womanhood” (whatever that “feminine mystique” is) is not entrenched in biology. The gender binary, sexism, and oppression affect many different groups, including members of the LGBTQIA community and man-identifying folks.

But there are some truly amazing woman-identifying individuals in my life, and I’m inspired by them. I value this community. I value the bonds we form as young women navigating careers, ambitions, relationships, identities. We’re learning and growing together, and it’s a powerful thing.

Breaking bread

“we all move forward when
we recognize how resilient
and striking the women
around us are”
Rupi Kaur, Milk and Honey

If you want to make your very own bagels, I have a recipe you’ve just gotta try! Check out these surprisingly simple bagels

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